Start with the constraints, not the wishes
Before you start dreaming, set out what isn’t negotiable:
- the dates: weather and prices change enormously with the season;
- the length: a weekend rules out destinations more than a few hours’ travel away;
- the budget per person, transport included;
- everyone’s starting point, if you’re not all leaving from the same city.
These constraints already eliminate a good share of the options and spare you disappointment.
Limit the suggestions
Let everyone suggest one or two destinations, then keep three to five. Beyond that, the vote gets scattered and nobody really wins.
Vote, don’t just discuss
In a group discussion, the chattiest people win. A vote gives everyone the same say. Two simple ways to vote:
- One vote per person: quick, ideal for a small group.
- Several votes per person: everyone ticks all the destinations they’re happy with. The most-ticked destination is the one that leaves the fewest people unhappy.
Set a deadline. When time’s up, the result stands, even if someone hasn’t voted.
Plan the tie-break
If there’s a tie, decide the rule in advance: the lowest price, the organiser’s call, or a second round between the top two. A rule known in advance stops the debate from reopening.
Once it’s chosen, book
The biggest risk after a vote is waiting. Book transport and accommodation within the next few days, before prices go up or someone changes their mind. For what comes next, follow our guide to organising a trip with friends.